I've heard this saying:
"Expecting a trouble-free life because you are a good person,
is like expecting the bull not to charge you because you are a vegetarian."
Sometimes people we love die.
Sometimes children are never born.
Sometimes the sick stay sick.
Sometimes the blind stay blind.
Sometimes legs never get to walk.
Sometimes children never learn to talk.
Sometimes people don't get married.
Sometimes people get divorced.
Sometimes "the bitter cup" is not removed.
Numberless sermons have been devoted to why this is. At this time, my desire is not to further discus the "why." (Though I did share some thoughts 3 years ago in my
Silversmith post.) Suffice it to say, I understand the need for, and blessings that come from, a "
refiners fire."
However, this understanding created an obstacle in my prayers to God. As we have struggled with our challenges, I've dropped to my knees, face wet with tears of fear and desperation. Truly believing that if I am to receive any help, guidance, or relief, God is the one to turn to.
But as I've tried to seek this aid, I've found myself stuck. Unsure of what to ask. Thinking to myself:
What if this is not to be healed?
What if the purpose and benefits of this trial far outweighs the pain?
What if deliverance is not what's best?
So . . . . . what do I ask for???
Last night I finally found an answer to this question. I remembered this saying:
If this "storm" is not to be "calmed," than I can ask God to "calm" me.
I can ask for peace.
I've seen answers to prayers explained like this:
I think this is true. Some circumstances (usually beyond our current understanding) require a 2 or a 3. But I also believe, there are a few things, to which the answer can always be "
yes." I believe one of those things would be,
a sincere and humble plea for peace.
In our tiny little corner of this great big world, our storm is still ever present; but He calmed his child. My tears of discouragement and helplessness dried, and our little family was able to continue to face our challenge, climb our mountain, and sail our storm, with
hope. Now my tears are tears of gratitude to my Lord.